The Indelible Stain

By | November 10, 2016

I will tell you a story… Back in high school we had “hall monitors” (but we were a garden campus, so they were on sidewalks). One of them was a German lady in her 50s. I got to know her a bit, She told me she was raised in Germany in the 30s and 40s,… Read More »

We Wake Up, That’s What We Do

By | November 8, 2016

Well, that was unexpected. To my fellow progressives and Democrats and even socialists – there’s no getting around this. We have been rejected in what we proposed for a vision for America, and in the next few years we will see profound changes we might also profoundly dislike. Where do we go from here? We… Read More »

“Moonlight”– the Rough Draft

By | November 6, 2016

When I watch a movie or attend a play or listen to music or read a book, I am usually present as the observer who analyzes my experience, always starting from “me” to say to myself “The author/creator is saying this and I either agree or disagree.” I remove myself one step from being in… Read More »

How a Straight White Christian Male Should Vote

By | November 1, 2016

White Christian man, and I voted today. Neither candidate would harm me if elected. My taxes will either stay the same or go down. I will always have a voice in society. But my friends—women, gays, people of color, immigrants, Muslims—world be incredibly harmed by the actions and policies of one candidate but not the… Read More »

Am I Racist?

By | October 24, 2016

This is a hard question for white people to answer because it is painful to consider. Short answer: Yes. You are racist. More acceptable answer (to help with the feelings): Mostly likely yes. Here’s why: It’s hard to hear that we white people (and our own selves) are racist, because we want to be on… Read More »

When White Supremacy Breaks

By | October 9, 2016

“Trump is what happens when white American bourgeois masculinity is celebrated, allowed, and desired throughout one’s life.” Darnell L. Moore What Darnell L. Moore says here about white male supremacy is all true—and more—but I wanted to extend this to talk about us, white men who knowingly or unknowingly buy into the idea that we… Read More »

On Empathy

By | September 23, 2016

Some helpful techniques and guidance about how to listen when people tell you something about themselves. It’s called empathy: When someone speaks of their experience, pain, or situation, empathy is to listen, and then to walk or sit with them. Often when people tell you of a painful event they aren’t asking for your own… Read More »

For Brian Crooks and His Supporters

By | September 22, 2016

I posted this on Facebook in Brian Crooks’s feed but I wanted to bring it forward. It is for Brian, of course, but it is for his many white supporters who hear what he says and ask “how can I help?” Dear FB Friend Brian, I can’t claim I ‘know’ other than as a FB… Read More »