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#WakingUpWhite, American Exceptionalism, Celebrate Recovery, justice, Life Recovery Skills, racism

#WakingUpWhite Chapter 40: Bull in a China Shop

I’m reading chapters from Waking Up White, by Debbie Irving, and blogging my responses. Quotes are from the book, and my responses follow. How habits that seem so innocuous to…

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January 26, 2020
Celebrate Recovery, essays, justice, Life Recovery Skills, racism, writing

Converting the Unconvertable

You cannot change someone’s mind through the presentation of fact. That presentation of fact happens later, after they are willing to be persuaded. What changes people is personal interaction and…

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January 17, 2018
American Exceptionalism, Black Lives Matter, justice, racism

Shadows on the Wall

CRT is about systems, not individuals. Systems are developed as shortcuts for lengthy processes so that we don’t spend all our time trying to figure out how to hand multiple…

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July 15, 2021
challenges, faith, history, justice, Life Recovery Skills, racism

Choosing Among Kaepernick, Sherman, Wilson, Newton, Marshall, and Others

Recently Colin Kaepernick has made a visible attempt to express his own evaluation of his person and his place in American society. Colin Kaepernick is black, and as a black…

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September 11, 2016
essays, flash fiction, short story, writing

“Only a Mother’s Love” fantasy short fiction published

My 2018 Yeah Write fiction entry Only a Mother’s Love is now published online at Short-Story.Me https://www.short-story.me/stories/fantasy-stories/1071-only-a-mother-s-love Premise is a mash-up of science fiction and true crime detective. And about…

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June 24, 2018
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    Black Lives Matter,  education,  faith,  Haiti,  history,  justice,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language,  racism

    Language and Memory

    February 10, 2025 /

    Yesterday I was talking with my Haitian friends in Haitian Creole for about an hour as we were planning how to set up our class to teach Haitians how to speak American English. Per my request, they talked a little more slowly and with fewer idioms than usual (although they did throw in an idiom that I got right away with my brain rapidly connecting the imagery with cultural aspects of Haiti, and man did that feel good that I did that!).

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    Great Unexpectations

    January 28, 2024
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    Hard Questions, Hard Answers

    June 20, 2021
    Man wearing hard hat and orange safety vest is tying iron construction rods together.

    Chèmèt chèmètrès

    August 11, 2024
  • education,  Haiti,  kreyòl ayisyen

    M toujou ap aprann – I’m still learning

    January 20, 2025 /

    One day I’ll be good enough to interact with native speakers who don’t know me and who don’t give me grace for my mistakes.

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    Mwen damou pou Vava – a story

    March 17, 2023

    To Study Portuguese

    February 20, 2019

    Eighteen Months In

    September 19, 2023
  • Seven hot air balloon in various colors float in the light blue sky.
    history,  Seattle,  writing

    Thoughts on My Last Day at Work

    January 10, 2025 /

    I had my retirement lunch today with my team, along with a few people who showed up unexpectedly from past, and it was really wonderful. I am just myself at work the same as I am in life. I put people first, mentor people and coach them, treat them as unique and wonderful and worth loving. I’ve done my job as a technical editor as a job that I loved, but still, it was a job. It used my passions and skills and talents. But the more important part was helping other people improve their skills, find their passions, and be released into what made them who they were. Not…

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    When the Pot Gets It Wrong About the Kettle

    September 23, 2023
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    Fieldnotes on Allyship is Launched!

    October 2, 2020
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 43: From Tolerance to Engagement

    March 18, 2020
  • A Black woman looks at the camera. We see her brown eyes and brown skin.
    Black Lives Matter,  faith,  Haiti,  history,  racism

    When We See Them

    October 24, 2024 /

    I’ve come to know many Haitians who are delightfully unique in their outlook on life as they are in their accents and vocabulary, which gives me no end of headaches as I try to figure out yet another idiom or unique word play I need to understand so that I can grasp their meaning.

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    A Place We Cannot Enter

    October 14, 2019
    A blue police light shining in a dark background.

    Safety monitors

    January 28, 2023

    REVIEW: The Secret Lives of Church Ladies

    October 12, 2021
  • Man wearing hard hat and orange safety vest is tying iron construction rods together.
    Black Lives Matter,  Haiti

    Chèmèt chèmètrès

    August 11, 2024 /

    Adventures in translation This was my “wrapped the chain around the axle” moment today. My assignment this month is to read a long-form essay, understand it, and then read it out loud & record it for my professor. It’s not a terribly difficult essay, but it taxes my brain because it’s a lot of content to read with comprehension well enough to explain it. Then I came across this word: “chèmètchè-mètrès”. Having no clue what this might be, I looked it up in my dictionaries (plural). No entry. I used Google to search the web. In all the world, this essay is the only place where it occurs. I have…

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    REVIEW: The Secret Lives of Church Ladies

    October 12, 2021
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    Be Like Betty White

    January 2, 2022

    Not Your Place, Not Your Time

    April 15, 2022
  • White cat stretching on a brown wooden plank
    kreyòl ayisyen,  language,  musings

    Two Things

    June 29, 2024 /

    Back in July or August of 2023 my left thigh started bothering me. Certain kinds of clothing irritated the heck out of it, but even without anything touching it, I’d have this numb-prickliness

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    Day 360 : Se Papa Li, Se Pa Pa Li

    February 18, 2023

    Day 270 of the Infinite Journey

    November 19, 2022
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    Maurice Sixto and His Stories

    March 27, 2023
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    challenges,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    My Year So Far

    June 1, 2024 /

    My previous post was in January of this year. It's just turned June. Where did the time go?

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 25: Belonging

    May 14, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 22: Why Do I Always End Up with White People?

    April 29, 2019

    Ki kote m ye?

    July 23, 2023
  • Two Haitian children carrying yellow plastic water buckets on their heads. Behind them is a small water supply building with its door open. In the background are more people carrying yellow plastic water buckets on their heads.
    Black Lives Matter,  faith,  history,  justice,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language,  racism,  work

    Great Unexpectations

    January 28, 2024 /

    Why does the world exist the way it does that a people confined to a third of an island in the Caribbean are seen as less-thans? How do they grapple with the faith that comes from white people to their land, given to them to give them hope, and yet used as a tool by those same white people to call them despicable names and degrade them?

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    When it is too much to bear but must be borne

    April 18, 2023
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    Shadows on the Wall

    July 15, 2021

    REVIEW: Shoutin’ in the Fire

    November 10, 2021
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    essays,  faith,  justice,  musings

    What I’ve Learned in 2023

    December 31, 2023 /

    I wanted to reflect upon what I learned this year, and also think of how my knowledge will affect my choices and behaviors in the new year…

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    When You Fall

    September 21, 2019
    A black and white photo. A young man stands in the middle of a grove of slender trees, all with white trunks.

    When Words Fail

    December 12, 2019
    Cannon facing the harbor ready to fire

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 29: Intent and Impact

    July 24, 2019
  • Black Lives Matter,  Food,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    My First Foray into the Field

    November 16, 2023 /

    I had already decided to make my order entirely in Haitian Creole. Which was a good choice, because the staff at the restaurant were not speaking English.

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    REVIEW: Punch Me Up to the Gods

    September 15, 2021
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    Great Unexpectations

    January 28, 2024

    REVIEW: The Secret Lives of Church Ladies

    October 12, 2021
  • AI generated image of a black tea kettle and several black pots
    Black Lives Matter,  history,  justice,  racism

    When the Pot Gets It Wrong About the Kettle

    September 23, 2023 /

    The oppressing side in its acts of oppression is doing wrong by nature. There is no “just” oppression. Whether it is cruel or superficially “kind,” oppression is wrong and cannot be redeemed either by language or a reduction in cruelty.

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    When we resist, we resist completely

    April 8, 2023
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    The White Voice in Black Conversations

    September 19, 2021

    REVIEW: Shoutin’ in the Fire

    November 10, 2021
  • education,  history,  justice,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Eighteen Months In

    September 19, 2023 /

    Well, I will continue my journey. It’s been a wonderful adventure that not only has helped open up a language and a culture and a people I never knew before, but also has changed me in how I see the world and understand those who live in.

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    The Purpose-Driven Lie

    October 23, 2019
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    Fieldnotes on Allyship is Launched!

    October 2, 2020
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    Mwen damou pou Vava – a story

    March 17, 2023
  • faith,  Food,  history,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Seeing with a New Tongue

    August 27, 2023 /

    in those decades of following Jesus, I’ve listened to uncountable sermons and Bible studies, often led by people with great earnestness, who have said “oh, if you only knew the Greek/Hebrew/Aramaic you’d see stuff in the scriptures that are hidden to you because you only know English.”

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    The Confidence of Ignorance

    July 25, 2020

    Words and Deeds

    March 3, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 6: From Confusion to Shock

    February 8, 2019
  • challenges,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Ki kote m ye?

    July 23, 2023 /

    It is weird to me that I can read these materials and kinda get the gist of them, but golly they are way more complex (to me) as an English-speaking student who has so little comprehension of Haitian culture and idioms.

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 25: Belonging

    May 14, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 22: Why Do I Always End Up with White People?

    April 29, 2019

    News and Updates

    April 13, 2019
  • musings

    Update on the Language Journey

    July 15, 2023 /

    It’s been a while since I last updated what I’m doing as I’ve been on the journey to learn Haitian Creole. I started in March of 2022, just after Duolingo released its course in Haitian Creole, and after a month of daily practice I realized that I was just learning some words and some very simple grammar, but beyond that, the course was not as fully developed as Duolingo’s other, more mature courses. There were no stories, for example, and various other features were just missing. Plus, it didn’t go very far beyond some vocabulary building and some simple grammar. It’s good stuff, believe me, but it’s not going to…

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    The Purpose-Driven Lie

    October 23, 2019

    Six Freedoms Black People Do Not Have Under a White Supremacy

    April 29, 2019

    My Dear White People

    November 10, 2019
  • Food,  kreyòl ayisyen

    Food Is Family

    May 7, 2023 /

    You just can’t get into Haitian culture if you don’t try pikliz. It’s colorful, flavorful, with a kick of spice, & epitomizes Haitian cuisine and culture.

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    My First Foray into the Field

    November 16, 2023

    Seeing with a New Tongue

    August 27, 2023
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    American Exceptionalism,  challenges,  education,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Sometimes our brains tell the truth while our emotions lie

    May 3, 2023 /

    I felt so slow and ignorant. I’m not that advanced, not at all, and I am a slow learner who is just not going to get much further along than I am. I’m feeling so discouraged.

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    Real but Imaginary Threats

    June 19, 2021

    My Dear White People

    November 10, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 31: Courageous Conversations

    October 6, 2019
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    American Exceptionalism,  history,  justice

    When you think you want to help

    April 28, 2023 /

    If you see Haiti and you have the urge to “help,” I would suggest that Haitians don’t really need you to come help them. Haitians, like all humans, have great intelligence, drive, creativity, and their own sense of self-worth. If you want to help, find and support Haitians who are doing that work. It doesn’t give you a place to be centered and it won’t provide photo opportunities of you “helping” Haitians. But it will help Haitians by letting them do for themselves.

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    It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way

    February 6, 2019
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    REVIEW: Good White Racist?

    May 24, 2021

    When the Past Tries to Reclaim the Present

    March 13, 2019
  • American Exceptionalism,  Black Lives Matter,  faith,  history,  justice,  racism,  violence

    When it is too much to bear but must be borne

    April 18, 2023 /

    How do I make my faith work anymore (and maybe it never did) when such a very Christian nation seems incapable of seeing the violence we are initiating, celebrating, and dismissing, often while claiming the name of Jesus?

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    News and Updates

    April 13, 2019

    Green Books, Black Lives, and White History

    February 28, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 9: White Superiority

    February 19, 2019
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    American Exceptionalism,  Black Lives Matter,  faith,  history,  justice,  racism,  violence

    When we resist, we resist completely

    April 8, 2023 /

    You want to terrify politicians? Take away their signs of power which are "respect" and obedience and decorum and complacency. Trip them up, make a point to oppose them at every turn, continuously point out their failures, and continuously refuse to accord them the power to silence you.

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 7: The GI Bill

    February 11, 2019

    The Charlottesville Declaration

    April 27, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 38: The Rugged Individual

    December 20, 2019
  • A street scene in Jakmèl, Ayiti. (also known as Jacmel, Haiti) A colonnade with several open bays.
    education,  humor,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Maurice Sixto and His Stories

    March 27, 2023 /

    There is a lot to unpack here, and while the story is interesting, it’s difficult for me because I don’t understand some of the references to the local customs.

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    Sometimes our brains tell the truth while our emotions lie

    May 3, 2023

    Eighteen Months In

    September 19, 2023
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    I begin “Chita Pa Bay”

    December 31, 2022
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    Books,  education,  humor,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language,  reviews

    Mwen damou pou Vava – a story

    March 17, 2023 /

    I could hear this young kid narrating this story. “My friends, you know me, and you know I wouldn’t tell you stories. But one day I met a girl—or maybe I just saw a girl—and I’ve not been able to remember what life was like before she existed.”

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    REVIEW: Subversive Witness: Scripture’s Call to Leverage Privilege

    December 12, 2021
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    REVIEW: Good White Racist?

    May 24, 2021

    REVIEW: How to Fight Racism

    December 28, 2020
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    American Exceptionalism,  faith,  family,  history,  justice,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    What makes someone a human?

    March 2, 2023 /

    Rather than seek to deny the humanity of gay people and trans people, what about using your religion to help you decide to know more about them so that you can love them better?

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 28: I Am the Elephant

    June 24, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 42: Solidarity and Accountability

    March 16, 2020
    A white man in a hat smiles at a white woman who smiles back.

    REVIEW: Good White Racist?

    May 24, 2021
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    history,  kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    It’s Been a Minute…

    February 23, 2023 /

    It was 365 days ago I first started using #Duolingo to begin my journey learning Haitian Creole (#kreyol #ayisyen). Why?

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    March 3, 2019

    It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way

    February 6, 2019

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    June 19, 2021
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    kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Day 360 : Se Papa Li, Se Pa Pa Li

    February 18, 2023 /

    There are times when I feel pretty good about my abilities, and then there are other times when I think I am the most ignorant and ill-taught student ever.

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    February 23, 2023

    Short stories and lengthy processes

    January 16, 2023

    M toujou ap aprann – I’m still learning

    January 20, 2025
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    kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    The Subtle Traps for the Unwary Learner

    February 8, 2023 /

    But then you start constructing your more complicated sentences and paragraphs, and it seems that every phrase has another chance to pick the not-quite-right grammatical construction or phrase or word

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    January 28, 2024
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    Looking back 300 days

    December 16, 2022

    Food Is Family

    May 7, 2023
  • kreyòl ayisyen,  language

    Bogs and marshes and slogs oh my!

    January 31, 2023 /

    Yesterday in class I read two pages of text, out loud, and then translated them on the fly, to the point where I was laughing out loud at some of the more ridiculous events in the story.

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