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faith, family

A Reminder: Welcome to Our Muslim Neighbors

Note: I first wrote this when I was asked to give the community welcome to the Muslim community in our town. There were certain comments made by local residents as…

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March 16, 2019
faith, family, justice, musings, racism

This Do

There is nothing that white American Christians have or want as human beings that our Black brothers and sisters do not want.

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April 1, 2021
kreyòl ayisyen, language

Istwa Keke ak Manman li — with assistance from a new friend

In which I pick up a new set of language skills - and a new friend.

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July 1, 2022
American Exceptionalism, faith, history, justice, movies, racism, reviews

I Am MLK Jr

A film from the Paramount Network. I was 13 when Dr. King was murdered. I could not comprehend what I was watching on TV from my safe, comfortable living room.…

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October 21, 2019
Celebrate Recovery, education, essays, faith, family, history, justice, Life Recovery Skills, racism, writing

So, This Is How It Happened

In which I relate the many interlocking steps leading to my aligning myself with all I once thought was opposed to God, flag, and country. In the past eight years…

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November 17, 2016
  • essays,  musings,  writing

    These Things I Believe

    August 4, 2013 /

    Every so often people question my Christian faith. Here’s what I believe: I believe in God, the Father almighty,creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, God’s only Son, our Lord,who was conceived by the Holy Spirit,born of the Virgin Mary,suffered under Pontius Pilate,was crucified, died, and was buried;he descended to the dead.On the third day he rose again;he ascended into heaven,he is seated at the right hand of the Father,and he will come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit,the holy Christian church,the communion of saints,the forgiveness of sins,the resurrection of the body,and the life everlasting. Amen. This creed was the…

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    About Trayvon and George

    July 15, 2013 /

    To my friends and family on Facebook who keep posting stuff to me on how George Zimmerman was innocent, Trayvon Martin was a thug, and that you also cannot understand why Black people are so upset over the loss of life of some kid in Florida. You’re not listening. You’re not listening to the people across the nation who have had this experience, multiple times, in their lives and the lives of their families and friends. You’re not listening to the mothers and fathers who do not know, day to day, whether their kids leaving for school in the morning will make it back home without harm. You’re not listening…

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    December 31, 2018
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    October 26, 2019
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    January 18, 2020
  • essays,  musings,  racism,  writing

    Paula Deen and the Unfortunate Change in Acceptable Words

    June 25, 2013 /

    Yes, we swim in a sea of racism. Yes, we pick it up. Yes, we even continue it. But we are human adults with minds and (I believe) the ability to choose different behaviors when instructed and led based upon what are (to my mind) better values. When someone raised me as a kid to be “good,” it meant being kind and honest and giving and caring. I don’t know if I already was “good,” and that was just instructions on how to do it, or whether I really wasn’t “good,” and the practice I did to follow the external rules molded my character. In either case, I turned out…

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    Christians, Gays, and Jesus

    March 27, 2013 /

    I wrote this in response to a great essay by a pastor I respect. He went through a hard time figuring out what he thought about gays and Christianity; as I thought about what he wrote (see here) [Ed: the post along with the site have since been erased] I responded with these words: The only sin I read about in Scriptures that is unforgivable is one: the sin of blaspheming the Holy Spirit of God, and I think it applies to the idea that the work of God cannot effect salvation. The only person in Scripture that I read about who could not be saved was one: a rich…

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    At One Time

    February 25, 2013 /

    Today Monty talked about a difficult term, “Atonement,” and brought out several ideas about what this means. I think most of us don’t think too much about this idea, and when we do, it’s with the vague sense that we’re swimming in rivers too cold and too deep for our water wings. I’m not going to try to re-explain what Monty said, as you can go listen to him online. It’s really quite excellent. What I do want to raise is the question of “Now that we know what it means, what do we do about it?” Or, more accurately, what am I going to do about it? I can…

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    The Key to Being a Productive Writer

    February 5, 2013 /

    There is one key thing to do when you want to be a productive writer. You simply write. And write and write and write. I had not worked on my latest MS (tentatively titled “Many Waters”) for about 2 months. It was a NaNoWriMo effort, and after NaNoWriMo was over, I just couldn’t look at it. It was nothing like what I wanted. I know what I want the book to be about, and yet it just is so squirrelly. I have so many dead ends and so many terribly overwritten parts. But you know, the secret is simply to keep writing until the main story is done. So that’s…

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    Cookie Cutter

    February 4, 2013 /

    We step into a river, we believers, when we first decide to follow Jesus. The river is the great flow of believers from all nations and all times, a river that started thousands of years ago and that continues today, with a vast congregation of people called by God and living in his name. We step into the river and there are so many who already are swimming, confident, powerful, assured of their journey, and it can be intimidating. So what we do is we copy what they’re doing. “Fake it ’til you make it” is a good motto, and it works. Along the way, though, sometimes we forget the…

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    Arms and the Man

    January 30, 2013 /

    If a foreign nation invaded America and as a result, 20 people every day were killed, at random, and no place was safe in America from violence–you could be dragged out and killed in your school, your home, your church, your mall, your car, in the park or on the street or at the movies or standing in line waiting for a burger–we would be at a near-riot condition, demanding our national defense do something to protect us from this daily violence which kills our mothers, our children, our wives, our brothers, our friends, our leaders, our pastors, our politicians, our police officers, our fathers, our sons, and us.Instead–we shrug…

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    Words of Apology

    May 9, 2020

    Jesus of the Scars–Edward Shillito

    January 23, 2019
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    Awash in a Sea of Tears

    January 29, 2013 /

    Paul’s Second Letter to the Corinthian Believers, Chapter 10, lines 3-6 “For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ, being ready to punish every disobedience, when your obedience is complete.” (ESV) “The truth is that, although of course we lead normal human lives, the battle we are fighting is on the spiritual level. The very weapons we use are not those of human…

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    In the Fields of the Lord

    February 12, 2019
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    God and Newtown

    December 18, 2012 /

    To my fellow Christians who are posting that “Newtown is God’s judgment on America for taking prayer out of schools”— I’m not speaking for God here, for my church, my religion, or anything official. I’m just speaking for me. But I want you just to stop. Stop. Right. Now. God doesn’t kill twenty kindergartners to prove a point. He didn’t cause bullets to rip through their bodies to “show us what happens” when we take God out of our schools. He didn’t put Victoria Soto in the way of death to prove to us that only the Christian religion could save us. A man with a gun did this. A…

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    Lenten Lamentations

    March 5, 2019
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    A Poem for Advent

    December 16, 2012 /

    America 2012 Twenty children were shot   Charlotte Bacon, 6and six adults in one of   Daniel Barden, 7the greatest tragedies   Olivia Engel, 6in American history.    Josephine Gay, 7Unfortunately, it was   Ana M. Marquez-Greene, 6not the greatest tragedy,   Dylan Hockley, 6for we have had mass   Madeleine F. Hsu, 6shootings in Columbine   Catherine V. Hubbard, 6and Virginia Tech and   Chase Kowalski, 7Aurora and Portland and…   Jesse Lewis, 6The list goes on and on,   James Mattioli, 6and while we are sometimes   Grace McDonnell, 7speechless and sometimes    Emilie Parker, 6saddened, it is never enough   Jack Pinto, 6to move us to take action.   Noah Pozner, 6We think we are powerless   Caroline Previdi, 6against guns,…

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    January 1, 2019

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    Words and Actions

    December 15, 2012 /

    Indeed I tremble for my country when i reflect that God is just: that His justice cannot sleep for ever

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    Sabbatical

    September 2, 2012 /

    If we want to have a time of rest, we have to be willing to have the wind stopped.

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    Losing My Religion Pt 3

    July 1, 2012 /

    I’m saying that this isn’t a lecture where an expert is advising you. I’m saying this is a lecture of someone saying “All of life is at your fingertips. Go for it. Don’t settle for less.”

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    Losing My Religion Pt 2

    June 10, 2012 /

    I get it that people think that Christianity is like any other religion, or that it is only a religion. It is that—a religion.

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    Losing My Religion Pt 1

    May 6, 2012 /

    People lie. Societies crumble. Businesses fail. Political parties speak one thing but pursue an opposite agenda. These are our gods, and they are proved not to be so much lies as they are simply untrustworthy—literally not worthy of our trust. Not worthy of us.

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  • musings

    Three Is the Magic Number

    March 27, 2012 /

    Three is the magic number. Our third annual Word Jazz festival takes place at Boxley’s, a jazz club in North Bend, Washington, on April 10, 2012, at 7:00 p.m. You should make reservations. Hope to see you there.

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    The Communion of the Saints

    March 4, 2012 /

    What kind of people participate in the communion of the saints?

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    The Writing Finger Having Mov’d Writes On

    February 27, 2012 /

    The art of building the story through the use of counters, blanks, and empty spaces gives room for the story to build and to breathe.

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    People of the Book

    December 26, 2011 /

    It’s odd how most of us only know what’s between page 1, far behind us, and page yet-to-be-determined, perhaps only a little ways before us, where our present life concludes and the book closes with a final snap.

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  • Books,  writing

    Book Review: Slavery by Another Name

    November 24, 2011 /

    Much of the success of the South around the turn of the last century can be traced to rise of industry centered in Birmingham, Alabama and in the cotton industry before the arrival of the boll weevil; this book helps explain how these riches were accumulated and who benefited.

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    Beauty and Ashes

    November 14, 2011 /

    I do not know if you can admit you’ve lived through that time, where beauty has changed to ashes. Often there is no safe place to have that discussion because life demands that you act as if life holds only beauty. There are chores and tasks to take care of. There are family members to support. Life goes on like a train, and there is never a cord to pull to say “Stop!” Whether you speak out or not—life goes on.

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    Sunday Words, Monday Deeds

    August 16, 2011 /

    I suspect that some of you are in the same boat with me. Thinking, “Lord, are you really calling me?” Because the awful reality is dawning that he is asking us to follow—to really follow – him.

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    Writing Exercises

    August 7, 2011 /

    So Nancy Kress gave us a set of writing exercises. One: Write a scene using only dialog. It’s an argument between two people. Two: Write an exposition about the room you’re in. Either you are negative about the room or positive. Only with description set the room as negative or positive. Bring in all five senses, if possible. Three: Take the scene/dialog you wrote, and add the “scenery” to give more detail that explains the scene. Give it a twist with the scenery without otherwise changing the words. (And use the senses.) ONE: DIALOG “That sad little nose isn’t working any more. Take it off.” “Happy Sam gave it to…

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    Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

    July 24, 2011 /

    There is a great clip on YouTube, where Bob Newhart is a therapist who attempts to help a lady with a problem. For whatever reason, she can’t stop thinking certain negative thoughts, and that bothers her. Bob’s advice is classic, accurate, but powerless: he tells her to just “stop it.” As if knowing something is the key to doing something. Maybe that works for you, but it doesn’t work for me. I mean, the being-told-what-to-do part. Most of us who are adults cannot be made to do anything we really don’t want to do. We usually do what we’ve always done, and try to skate by on a good explanation.…

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    Model Garage

    June 13, 2011 /

    We will always need that sense of being connected and that sense of knowing that someone sees us, recognizes us, and finds us valuable.

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    Acts of Faith

    April 26, 2011 /

    Have you ever walked into a movie halfway and then spent the rest of the movie trying to figure out what it all means? It makes for a challenging viewing experience—you don’t really know the characters, and you have to guess why people do what they do

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