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Mwen damou pou Vava – a story

I could hear this young kid narrating this story. “My friends, you know me, and you know I wouldn’t tell you stories. But one day I met a girl—or maybe…

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March 17, 2023
musings

Science or Superstition—Ebola and Crowdsourcing Wisdom

I don’t pay much attention to the chatter on the news—I don’t watch the talking heads and don’t follow the conversations and popular topics. With that said, I see now…

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October 14, 2014
Celebrate Recovery, faith, justice, Life Recovery Skills, musings

Words of Apology

One of the most critical things I’m learning is that a conditional apology is worthless. An apology leading with an “if” is nothing at all. It is words that afford…

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May 9, 2020
#WakingUpWhite, American Exceptionalism, essays, history, justice, racism

#WakingUpWhite Chapter 9: White Superiority

[Edited 2/23/2019 A point of clarification on this post: the indented portions are quotes from the book by Debby Irving, “Waking Up White.” Along with several other people, some who…

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February 19, 2019
#WakingUpWhite, American Exceptionalism, faith, history, Life Recovery Skills, racism

#WakingUpWhite Chapter 28: I Am the Elephant

This chapter explores the meaning behind not only identifying as white (which is simple enough when we check off the census form), but also identifying white as a race in…

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June 24, 2019
  • Four sheep facing the viewer. They are standing in a field.
    American Exceptionalism,  faith,  history,  justice,  racism

    To My Evangelical Faith Family

    August 29, 2020 /

    To my white Evangelical family: You birthed me and raised me and gave me principles and sent me out into the world. I owe my character development to you. But now you’ve gone insane. I’ll just say this: a man, woman, or child does not need to be perfect in order to be treated as a human being who, according to our theology, bears the Imago Dei — the image of God. We were taught as Evangelicals to believe that all human beings are gloriously unique and valuable. This is embedded into our very theology of the Incarnation: we believe that Jesus was — and is! — not only God…

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    Safety monitors

    January 28, 2023

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 42: Solidarity and Accountability

    March 16, 2020

    When You See Their Truth

    November 1, 2021
  • white man with gray hair faces away from camera, sitting in empty stone church.
    Celebrate Recovery,  essays,  faith,  history,  justice,  questions,  racism,  writing

    Making the Past the Past

    August 1, 2020 /

    “The past is never dead. It’s not even past.” ~ Wm. Faulkner It is a difficult thing to think that one’s own faith might itself be in need of redemption. While I got “saved” into the Christian faith during the Jesus Movement, I still found the Billy Graham Crusades to be helpful. Yet it felt funny to see BG side with Republicans. It was discomforting to see how little BG dealt with the racism of the church—even when I wasn’t aware of what was going on, really, I remember thinking it odd that BG would be so, so careful on how he handled MLK, Jr. and his memory. I found…

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    Do This in Remembrance of Me

    August 25, 2022
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 46: Whole Again

    May 25, 2020
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 40: Bull in a China Shop

    January 26, 2020
  • Mug of coffee on a square of burlap. A journal and pencil lay next to it. There are coffee beans scattered around the cup and on top of the journal.
    #WakingUpWhite,  faith,  justice,  racism

    The Confidence of Ignorance

    July 25, 2020 /

    It’s really sad when white guys don’t get it. There’s a sui generis difference between the experience of Black Americans and everyone else. I was in a discussion with some people, including some white guys, one who demanded to include his own viewpoint into any discussion about the value of Black lives, often expressed by the phrase “Black Lives Matter.” It was . . . an interesting discussion that went nowhere, because the discussion started from ignorance by this gentleman and never went any further than what he already was convinced was the whole truth.  The sad thing isn’t so much that he didn’t listen. (Reader: he didn’t listen.) The sad thing is…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 28: I Am the Elephant

    June 24, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 2: Family Values

    January 29, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 17: My Good People

    March 20, 2019
  • musings

    REVIEW: Just Mercy

    July 5, 2020 /

    I got this book for Christmas, and it sat on my pile of “To Read” books because there were a dozen or so books waiting for me before I could get to this one. But I picked it up, and started reading. This is an extraordinary book, not only for the masterful construction of a story (I’m always looking for that) but also for the deeply personal and intimate way of telling us this story that brings us into the lives of these men and women and children who have been pushed onto a conveyor belt that leads to the extraordinary cruelty of the death penalty in the United States.…

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    Juneteenth, Reparations, and What Do I Do About It?

    June 19, 2019
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    Pride and Prejudice, Staged

    October 26, 2019
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    Two Things

    June 29, 2024
  • Celebrate Recovery,  faith,  history,  justice,  Life Recovery Skills,  racism,  reviews

    REVIEW: So You Want to Talk about Race

    June 27, 2020 /

    So you want to write a review . . . I was initially reluctant to read this book by Ijeoma Uluo. I had heard it was “hard” to read. But I had purchased it, and had it sitting on my desk for a few months. “I’ll get to it.” One day. Just not today. So then I was challenged by a friend to read it. I did—and found out that my fears were unfounded. This is a deep, rich, emotionally transparent book about race and even . . . how to talk about race. I need to be absolutely clear here, as absolutely clear as Oluo is in her own…

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    June 19, 2022

    If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see

    January 26, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 44: Listening

    March 28, 2020
  • A suburb showing about 100 houses on winding streets.
    American Exceptionalism,  history,  justice,  racism

    From Levittown to Black Lives Matter

    June 26, 2020 /

    We built the ground for protests when we broke ground for Levittown

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    White Jesus, Bible Jesus: Pick One

    November 14, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 8: Racial Categories

    February 14, 2019
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    Sometimes our brains tell the truth while our emotions lie

    May 3, 2023
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    10 Days of Music,  Music

    My Life in Music: Day 10

    June 24, 2020 /

    Music is the color of life I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. TODAY the cycle is complete. Ten things I know about me. I selected the songs to develop a story, and now we come to the part where the sun is rising on a new day. I started with music as pure color — as sound and rhythm and feeling, of seeing through my mind the world of beauty around me.…

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    June 15, 2020
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    June 22, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 6

    June 20, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 9

    June 23, 2020 /

    To uncover the pain I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today’s song seems unusually prescient, but perhaps it is simply a song that is relevant every day in our America. I built out this list much earlier to explain the songs that are important to me, and here we are and the songs are contextualized by the events of this month, this week, this day, this hour, this minute. This life. “Rose…

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    June 19, 2020
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    June 24, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 2

    June 16, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 8

    June 22, 2020 /

    To cover the soul I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today is a song whose words were written by a 16th century Spanish soldier-poet — one of the more famous of them, Garcilaso de la Vega. His poem was set to music several years ago by Z. Randall Stroop, and the resulting song is sometimes performed in concerts. The music is gentle, sometimes soaring, sometimes plaintive, but it wraps the words of…

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    June 18, 2020
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    June 19, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 1

    June 15, 2020
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    10 Days of Music,  Music

    My Life in Music: Day 7

    June 21, 2020 /

    Awake, lyre and harp I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today is a week of music. And this is a turning point. Stay with me. I’ve come along through 50 years of living and the kids are heading off to college. Soon the house will be empty, and then the next part of life will start. I guess. We’re at the February choir concert in the community college where our youngest son…

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    June 24, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 3

    June 17, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 6

    June 20, 2020 /

    The spinning world stops I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today is “A Love Song,” from the group Love Song. I was a teenager in Southern California. Like teenagers everywhere, I knew everything and knew nothing. (Please. I’ve grown a little since then. I still know nothing but I’ve stopped believing I know everything — on my good days.) But I was in the moment living during what later became called the…

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    My Life in Music: Day 2

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    June 22, 2020
    Black and white picture of Sam Cooke singing

    My Life in Music: Day 5

    June 19, 2020
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    10 Days of Music,  Music

    My Life in Music: Day 5

    June 19, 2020 /

    The unawakened heart I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today is Sam Cooke. I heard him sing, in brief snatches, on the radio. I didn’t — and still don’t — listen to radio much. When I’m doing something, I tune out almost all noise, including music. It was the way to survive in a hectic family of six very active mischief-seeking children and parents who are doing their best simply to keep…

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    June 22, 2020
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    June 20, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 7

    June 21, 2020
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    My Life in Music: Day 4

    June 18, 2020 /

    Music is human connection I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. Today is getting into first gear. What with instrumental pieces like Bach and Holst there was the enjoyment of being in the music. But then with these songs the words also begin to become more important. Without the music and the rhythm, perhaps the creation would have been powerful still. Put them together and it becomes a new thing. This is James…

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    My Life in Music: Day 3

    June 17, 2020 /

    Music can move us I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. “Move Over” (from “Through Children’s Eyes,” The Limelighters). I grew up in the 50s and early 60s. Before there was rock and roll, before there was an explosion of tightly produced music that you listened to, there was folk music. You sang along with folk music. The entire album was led by the Limelighters, a popular folk music trio, but behind them…

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    My Life in Music: Day 2

    June 16, 2020 /

    The envelop of emotion I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. “Jupiter — The Planets” (Holst). Before there was Star Wars and John Williams there was Holst who wrote the themes lifted for the film. This suite of songs was about something but I could not put it into words. Listening was simply an experience. Here was music and here was emotion and it was ineffable. I don’t have the vinyl anymore, and…

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    My Life in Music: Day 1

    June 15, 2020 /

    Order and Beauty, Mixed I was given the task by a friend of choosing 10 songs that greatly influenced me. I will post one song per day, for 10 consecutive days. Each song draws the picture more clearly, showing what has inspired me or just given me solace. The first day’s offering is “Bach: Brandenburg Concerto №3 in G Major (Parts 1, 2, and 3)” Wendy Carlos 1968. This is the second album of electronic music that I collected. (The first is lost in the mists of time, an album I picked up at discount store back in the 60s as well.) Classic rhythms, harmonies, structure with impossible instruments. Sorry.…

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    June 24, 2020
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    June 22, 2020
  • musings,  reviews

    13 BILLION TO ONE, by Randy Rush

    June 15, 2020 /

    I was given an advance reader’s copy of the book 13 Billion to One, by Randy Rush, and asked to create an honest review after reading. My thoughts are below. This is a wild and fascinating ride through the experiences of a man plucked by fate from his ordinary life into the world of fantasy–the fantasy of suddenly having enough money to do just about whatever you want to do. Go see your favorite team! Fly to Europe! Travel to Africa! Buy the car that you’ve always wanted. Two cars—or even more! But along with fantasy comes the reality of dealing with the people who surround you hoping to use…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 30: Feelings and the Culture of Niceness

    September 10, 2019

    My Dear White People

    November 10, 2019

    Update on the Language Journey

    July 15, 2023
  • history,  reviews

    Interview with Jamie Lisa Forbes

    June 11, 2020 /

    I agreed to read and review Eden, by Jamie Lisa Forbes. I found the book fascinating and deep (you can read my review here), and I got to ask the author some questions about the book and about the inspiration for her creation. It’s interesting to look back at the timeframe of the authorship as well as my reading of the book—prior to COVID-19 and the current social unrest in the United States, there seemed to be little reason to believe that leaving secrets buried would become harmful in the present. The strategy has worked so well for us in the past. But here we are in a time of…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 23: Diversity Training

    April 30, 2019
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    Great Unexpectations

    January 28, 2024
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    The Devil Is a Christian Nationalist

    May 23, 2021
  • reviews

    EDEN, by Jamie Lisa Forbes

    June 1, 2020 /

    WHAT IS EDEN AND WHERE CAN WE FIND IT, we sometimes ask. A place of creation for some. A place of rest for others. And yet Eden is the garden that we lost because of the choices we made long ago. We were cast out, and we cannot return though we ever yearn to be there in the cool of the evening when the first stars appear. Rowen is there at the beginning, of course, when he first meets Eden—a young girl who must testify of extraordinary and violent crimes she witnessed that rocked the small town of White Rock, North Carolina. She’s a wisp of a thing, the kind…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 2: Family Values

    January 29, 2019

    SPEAKEASY, by Elyse Douglass

    May 4, 2022

    REVIEW: Urban Apologetics

    April 6, 2021
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    #WakingUpWhite,  American Exceptionalism,  Celebrate Recovery,  faith,  history,  justice,  Life Recovery Skills,  racism

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 46: Whole Again

    May 25, 2020 /

    I’ve been blogging with friends as I read through “Waking Up White,” by Debby Irving. We’re committed to reading, thinking, and then writing about our thoughts. For a complete list of posts from my own journey, see https://stephenmatlock.com/category/writing/wakingupwhite/ Quote from Ms. Irving’s book appear using a format to distinguish them from my own words in response. Race is not a cause, it’s a part of becoming fully human. —Billie Mayo Goodness. Interesting and provocative! One of the great temptations of white people when confronting racism is to wish earnestly that it would go away as a difficult and troubling topic. And yet—here it is. I write and edit for Our…

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    October 6, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 4: Optimism

    February 2, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 45: Normalizing Race Talk

    May 9, 2020
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    Celebrate Recovery,  faith,  justice,  Life Recovery Skills,  musings

    Words of Apology

    May 9, 2020 /

    One of the most critical things I’m learning is that a conditional apology is worthless. An apology leading with an “if” is nothing at all. It is words that afford us no responsibility to understand or change, and we can offer such an “apology” with no sense of insight about the person who we are. Instead, this “apology” pushes the offense to the victim of the offense. “I wasn’t clear. You didn’t understand. You’re too sensitive. I didn’t mean that.” Love is at stake here. The meaning, the purpose, the expression. We might think we “love” people, and we might think we really mean it. (“I feel so sincere!”) But…

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    June 19, 2022

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    February 12, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 45: Normalizing Race Talk

    May 9, 2020 /

    Blogging with friends as I read “Waking Up White” by Debby Irving, committed to read and think and write about our thoughts. For the complete list of posts from my own journey, see https://stephenmatlock.com/category/writing/wakingupwhite/ Quotes from the book appear using a different style from my reactions. Using the topic of race as a relationship builder, not buster. I still find it to be uncanny that as I read this book, pause, and then blog about it, that what I read in the book seems to be in parallel to what I’m currently experiencing or thinking. I’m thinking right now about how to talk about race that is normative and informative…

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    October 14, 2019
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    July 24, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 20: My Robin Hood Syndrome

    April 9, 2019
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    American Exceptionalism,  essays,  history,  justice,  racism

    With Malice Aforethought

    May 9, 2020 /

    “The McMichaels did not intend to kill Mr. Arbery that day. All they intended to do was to stop him, question him, and hold him and wait for the police to arrive.” You’ll start hearing this defense, if you haven’t already. It seems so understandable, so smooth, so compassionate. But. No. Imagine you’re going to “get out of the house.” Just go for a drive. It’s May, and it’s a beautiful day. “I’m not going bowling,” you say. “I know that bowling is bad for me. I get mad when I can’t get 300 and I mess up the place.” But you take your bowling bag with your bowling ball…

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    May 19, 2021

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    June 19, 2021

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    March 10, 2019
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 44: Listening

    March 28, 2020 /

    Still blogging with my friends as I read “Waking Up White” by Debby Irving, committing ourselves to read and think and write about our thoughts. For the complete list of posts from my own journey, see https://stephenmatlock.com/category/writing/wakingupwhite/ Quotes from the book appear using a different style from my reactions. “You know what we need? We need a listening revolution.” I’m friends with a few people, some of them exceedingly gracious to me. The ones whom I learn the most from are the ones I listen the most to. Listening runs counter to my character of having to know everything and to try everything and to be assertive and confident and…

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    June 12, 2019

    #Waking Up White Chapter 21: Straddling Two Worlds

    April 13, 2019

    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 22: Why Do I Always End Up with White People?

    April 29, 2019
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    Getting an Upgrade

    March 26, 2020 /

    Well, it’s official. I’m now an editor for the online magazine Our Human Family, which has the motto “Conversations on achieving equality.” Clay Rivers is the publisher, dreamer, and doer behind all this, and he’s produced some awesome work, not only with an online magazine but also printed full-color magazines. We’ve been chatting together for a while now, and I’ve been handing him some of my own work to publish. So it just seemed like the right time to start working with him officially. It’s a labor of love*, and the goals we are are simple and direct and honest: that we would all love one another. Take a look,…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 27: Living into Expectations

    June 18, 2019
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    May 9, 2020

    Making Good in Trouble

    March 29, 2022
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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 43: From Tolerance to Engagement

    March 18, 2020 /

    I’m blogging, along with several other writers, as I read the book by Debby Irving “Waking Up White.” We’ve committed to sharing our thoughts as we read. This is another post in the series of my own journey. For the complete list of posts, see https://stephenmatlock.com/category/writing/wakingupwhite/ Quotes from the book appear using a different style from my reactions. “Tolerance” and “celebrating diversity” set the bar too low. Intriguing statement. In this chapter Ms. Irving explores the idea that merely putting people of color (or BBIPOC) into an organization does not, by itself, do anything beyond show that corporations are capable of expanding their hiring pool. (This is not a bad…

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    #WakingUpWhite Chapter 42: Solidarity and Accountability

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    I’m blogging, along with several others, as I read the book by Debby Irving “Waking Up White.” We’ve committed to writing about our thoughts as we read along, and so this is another post in the series. For the complete list of posts, see https://stephenmatlock.com/category/writing/wakingupwhite/ Quotes from the book are formatted using a different style than my own reactions. Somewhere early in this journey, a man of color signed a note to me, “In solidarity, James.” The word “solidarity” jolted me. Here he’d just extended to me the honor of being “in” something with him, and I was feeling uncomfortable about it. It made me feel like a fraud and…

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